Nicole at Unschoolers.org talks about sharing power with her children. I like the way she puts it. If our kids are to exercise power over others, they must practice wielding it from an early age. After developing a proper respect of and responsibility using power, they are more likely to approach their own children as powerless and ignorant, needing their guidance and mentoring, rather than making them the object of the irresponsible use of their power. Breaking the cycle of abuse, in other words.