What is happening when consenting adults have sex? They are trading emotional and/or physical feelgoods. And when money is involved? They are likewise trading emotional and/or physical feelgoods… Say what now? It’s true.
Tag: relationships
How Public Shaming Makes Real Change Harder
As long as we jump straight to public shaming and enemy-labelling, most people won’t have the internal fortitude to take the necessary steps to change. Public shaming should be a last resort when all hope of change is lost.
In Love with the Heartbreaking Beauty of the Discomfort
With my body in pain, I looked up at the sunlight and kept my heart open. And I took in the heartbreaking beauty of life. I witnessed it, and found it to be miraculous, pain and struggle and discomfort and all. It wasn’t beautiful in spite of the pain — the pain was a part of its total beauty. The struggle and discomfort itself was heart-renderingly gorgeous, as was everything else in the moment.
Oskar Schindler, Problematic Legacies, Imperfect Heroes, and the Immutable Good
There’s still a lingering depression when we consider that heroes like Schindler can backslide, or make stupid decisions, or make cruel ones (like abandoning a spouse) after having done something great and good. There has to be an antidote to that despair. Or what is the point of doing good in the world if it can be so easily lost?
Love Is Powerless
The lure of domination lurks wherever we hold the keys. And there isn’t much self-actualization going on in a relationship between unequals. If you really want to see someone come alive and become more “themself” – in other words, if you want to love them – you’re going to have to give up the keys. You have to surrender your power.
Networking – It’s Not Just About the New People
Your connections are your customers. So if you have a LinkedIn account stocked with a couple of hundred current connections, maybe now’s the time to spend less time on growing your network and more time on nurturing the connections you have. Networks aren’t just about breadth – they’re also about depth.
Libertarian Views on Two Books and a Movie
I have recently, as usual, been bingeing on various dramas and books that have some degree of voluntaryist content. Here are three examples that I would like to recommend to you, dear readers.
Refusing to Recognize This Dangerous Fallacy
This right of exclusion may be exercised at any time for any reason (or no reason), but it does not follow that the property owner has any authority over people simply because they are on his land.
How My Grandfather Won His Last Battle
Today my grandfather died. I’m still processing what it means to live in a world without him. But there’s one thought that gives me extraordinary satisfaction: he ended so well.
Irony Is Stunting Your Relationships
It’s easy to make acquaintances in the modern world. New connections are just a few taps away on any mobile device. That’s an amazing thing. Sincerity and depth in relationships with other young people is harder to get at.