When I say to someone “I need to be true to myself” could I really be saying:
“I want you to perceive me as I intend to be perceived without me going to the trouble of understanding things from your perspective”.
In other words. If our behaviors are being perceived by others in a way we don’t intend – is that really being true to ourselves? Perhaps striving to understand how another sees us and modifying our behaviors based on that understanding is being even more true to ourselves.