“Skyler is an unschooling dad of three children and is the editor of the book Unschooling Dads: Twenty-two Testimonials on Their Unconventional Approach to Education. It’s not often that we get to hear about unschooling from the dad’s perspective and I really love that you took the time and effort to pull this book together. I really enjoyed reading their perspectives.”
Tag: spanking
Don’t Let Bad Parenting Ruin Your Holiday (56m) – Episode 100
Episode 100 welcomes Chantel Quick to the podcast for a chat with Skyler about her article titled, “Dear Parents: 6 Things to Remember This Holiday Season”. Topics include: Chantel’s journey to peaceful parenting, blogging at EarthBasedMom.com, self-directed living, bribing kids with gifts, controlling and manipulating children, lying to kids, use of the Santa myth, forcing affection with relatives, and more.
How to Stop Raping People (1h44m) – Episode 098
Episode 098 welcomes Jessica Burden back to the podcast for an important and lively conversation on what people should do stop the epidemic of sexual assault. Topics include: pedofilic neighbors, sex offender registries, community vigilance, hitting children, what trauma is and what causes it, adult connections with children, childhood autonomy, sexual drives, puberty, personal responsibility for one’s security, double standard on inebriated responsibility, institutional analysis, false accusations, Trutheum, and more.
The Case for NAP Parenting
We live in a society where parents and guardians promote and use aggression towards children that would be considered immoral and criminal if inflicted on other adults.
Superstition Still Plagues Humanity
When I think of behaviors or convictions from the past now considered superstitious, I can’t help but find many modern analogs. It’s not difficult when we define superstition as follows: a belief in something in spite of the absence of supporting facts or evidence.
I Do Not Want a “Well Behaved” Child
“Whoever wrote this and did the research is confused and did not define terms accurately. I spanked, not hit, all nine of my children and they do not hit. Never have. My grown children are well adjusted, well behaved, loving kids. I receive positive compliments about them often. Spanking is quite misunderstood.”
Spanking is Hitting, Period
“Let people parent how they want to parent” is for things like what time your kids go to bed. You cannot say that when you are being violent to children. And I will say this one more time. Hitting anyone is violent. I will defend the right of children over your assumed “right” to hurt them. If someone starves their child of food, do you protest, “let people parent how they want to parent?!”
Spanking Kids is a Result of Your Pain, Not Their Behavior.
For an adult who wasn’t taught to identify their emotions and own them as their own, spanking or swatting is, unfortunately, the easiest way to respond to a child who has triggered us. We are literally being exactly like a child when we hit. We are in our child minds because we were not taught a better way.
Cornell University College of Human Ecology Says, “Spanking Should be Discouraged”
“Research findings demonstrate that spanking is ineffective and harmful to children. In addition, there is increasing support from prominent professional, religious, and human rights organizations to avoid and eliminate spanking practices.”
10 Points that the Pro-Spanking Crowd Totally Missed
Instead of addressing everyone’s comment individually, I will just write a post responding to all the defenses of spanking children. Which is pretty easy because there are only a handful that I hear over and over again. My hope is that I can shed a little more light on this topic and help radically shift the mindset that these people seem to be deeply conditioned in.