Dishonesty is the highest form of disloyalty. Nothing is a greater offense to true loyalty than fake love. Have you been victimizing yourself or others by putting on a facade of fake love? Do you consistently behave in ways that are antithetical to your core values and highest priorities all in the name of “taking one for the team”?
Author: T.K. Coleman
TK Coleman is the Education Director for Praxis. He has coached dozens of young people and top performers from all stages of life. He’s the author of hundreds of articles and is a frequent speaker on education, entrepreneurship, freedom, personal growth, and creativity. TK is a relentless learner, has been involved in numerous startups, and has professional experience ranging from the entertainment to financial services industries and academia. Above all else, TK is on a mission to help people embrace their own power and expand their own possibilities.
Will it Still Matter 100 Years From Now?
We live in an amazing world. Our ability to communicate across vast distances in real-time is unlike anything that has ever been witnessed in human history. I can know what you had for breakfast today, what my cousin Jimmy did for his birthday last night, which NBA teams are discussing trades, and which countries are angry at each other all in a single glance of my newsfeed on Twitter. There are literally thousands of things to react to in any given minute. So much to react to. So little time.
Con Trolling
Here’s how it works: a troll preys on your need to be affirmed. Nearly everything that a troll does is to signal a message to you that says “I don’t like you and I’m not going to grant you the gift of my approval.” Once you start using arguments as a means of begging the troll to become your ally, the troll wins. Now he/she can simply play the easy and endless game of using everything you say as a basis for offering responses that make you feel more desperate for their acceptance and more frustrated for not receiving it.
Do Unto Others
The golden rule doesn’t mean you should buy chocolate ice cream for others merely because you like chocolate ice cream. It doesn’t mean you should throw surprise birthday parties for your friends just because you happen to love surprise birthday parties. The golden rule is a principle of moral symmetry. It simply means that you should consider other people’s unique needs, concerns, and sensitivities just as you would like them to consider your unique needs, concerns, and sensitivities.
Dogmatism and the Pursuit of Truth
Editor’s Pick. Written by T. K. Coleman. I am dogmatically committed to being uncommitted to dogma. As a matter of principle I do not regard any of my beliefs as anything other than provisionary conceptual maps with which I attempt to navigate this vast mysterious sea of being we call “reality.” All philosophy becomes dangerous…
Why I’m Not a Pessimist
Writes T. K. Coleman: For me, optimism is somewhat of a default position. It’s what’s left over when I add up everything I know and subtract it from the indefinite potentiality of what is. In other words, I just can’t imagine ever knowing enough to be a pessimist. To be honest, I don’t even know…
Two Kinds of Peace
Writes T. K. Coleman: There are two kinds of peace. The first kind of peace stems from the absence of contrast. It’s the kind of peace we feel when we’re not being challenged. The second kind of peace arises from self-knowledge. It’s rooted in the confidence we have in our own ability to adapt, evolve,…
When Reality Sets In
Writes T. K. Coleman: We begin by dreaming. Once dreams are pursued, “the reality” sets in. But what we call “the reality” –sacrifices, hardships, compromises, setbacks, etc–is all a part of the dream. The realities that seem to contradict our dreams do not belong to some other realm that must be ignored or defeated. Those…
Re: Free Your Mind
Writes T. K. Coleman: Frederick Douglass wrote: “Knowledge makes a man unfit to be a slave.” An awakened mind makes an autonomous man. Our experience of freedom is directly proportional to our quality of perception and the world’s capacity to make us feel powerless is no greater than the ignorance we have of our own…