Send him mail. “One Voluntaryist’s Perspective” is an original column appearing most Mondays at Everything-Voluntary.com, by the founder and editor Skyler J. Collins. Archived columns can be found here. OVP-only RSS feed available here. Building a Culture of Liberty I: Definitions Having thus defined our terms, we can begin exploring the necessary prerequisites to building…
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Voluntaryism 101: A Simple Explanation
Send him mail. “Food for Thought” is an original column appearing every other Tuesday at Everything-Voluntary.com, by Norman Imberman. Norman is a retired podiatrist who loves playing piano, writing music, lawn bowling, bridge, reading, classical music, going to movies, plays, concerts and traveling. He is not a member of any social network, nor does he…
How to Stop Yelling?
The question was asked, What are your alternatives to yelling? Spanking was easy to go cold turkey, but stopping yelling has been harder then quitting smoking. It’s taken a couple of years, but I yell a lot less than I used to. My primary tool is preemption. Be your child’s partner. They ask for you…
Episode 043 – 21 Creative Consequences for Kids, Rebutted! (0h52m)
Episode 043 has Skyler going solo in his rebuttal of a list of twenty-one “creative consequences” for kids’ so-called misbehavior. Listen to Episode 043 (0h52m, mp3, 128kbps)Show Notes Lisa Welchel, “21 Creative Consequences for Kids“Laura Markham, AhaParenting.com, “Raise a Self-Disciplined Child“L. R. Knost, LittleHeartsBooks.com, “Practical, Gentle, Effective Discipline“NaturalChild.org, “Articles on Gentle Guidance“Pam Laricchia, LivingJoyfully.ca, “Communication…
Re: On Child Misbehavior
Very interesting thoughts by Skyler on child misbehavior. It is my understanding that ALL choices that everyone makes are done to fulfill some unmet need. Even if we are incorrect in our calculation that the need will be met or are unaware consciously of what that need is. What is “misbehavior” anyway but choices that…
On Child Misbehavior
I don’t think that children misbehave. Rather, I think they behave exactly as expected when either their needs are not being met, or when they are trying to meet their own needs as best they can at the moment and in their present environment. Think about it. When a child is coloring on the wall,…
Never Call the Cops!
A rebellious teenager has a fight with his father and takes his pickup truck for a drive without permission. The father calls the cops. The cops hunt down the son and shot him dead. Unfortunately, this is not a plot outline for a TV movie, but an actual situation that occurred this week in Iowa.…
What Makes a Consequence Logical?
Editor’s Pick. Written by Kelly Bartlett for PositiveParentingConnection.net. Throughout our endeavors in positive parenting, the terms “natural consequences” and “logical consequences” are frequently tossed around. It is helpful to understand the differences between natural consequences and logical consequences, as well as to understand when a response is punitive. Parenting with Positive Discipline means striving to…
Do You Fight In Front of Your Kids?
Editor’s Pick. Written by Laura Markham for AhaParenting.com. In the past, most experts reassured parents that there’s no harm in children seeing them fight, as long as the kids also see the parents make up afterwards. However, recent developments in neurological research challenge this view. Not surprisingly, it turns out that when children hear angry…
Can You “Enforce” Your Limits Without Force?
Written by Laura Markham for Aha! Parenting. This is a terrific question: How can we “enforce” our limits? The short answer is, we can’t force anyone to do anything. All we can do is help our child WANT to meet our expectations and help him develop the emotional regulation so he’s able to do so.…