When Enedina Vance posted a photo of her smiling baby with a pierced cheek on Facebook, she expected — and wanted — a reaction. She probably didn’t expect the reaction to be so vehement. She received death threats. Some commenters claimed to have called government “child protective services” to come take the child away from an “abusive” mother.
Tag: culture
Are You Disrespecting Your Child with this Type of Attention?
I think attention is a wonderful commodity and the anecdote to so many of the problems that arise with our children. The key is to understand what kind of attention is helping and what kind of attention is hurting.
Beyond Schizophrenic
“We need thousands of heavily armed government agents making sure everyone has the politicians’ holy permission to be here … in order to protect freedom!”
The Problem With Obedience: Why You Really Don’t Want An Obedient Child
Wouldn’t it be nice if your children just did what you asked all the time? Do you ever have this thought? Of course you do! You have children. I have had the same thoughts (trust me), but when you really think about the long term consequences of obedience and how that looks in a relationship, you start to really question our culture’s parenting methods.
“He’s Just Being a Boy” II
In the last several years I have seen quite a few people critical of the phrase “boys will be boys.” While I will often agree with these people’s perspective on selected examples of shitty behavior … I think they misunderstand how the phrase has been generally used, and I think there is danger in how many of these people think.
The Failure of Western Institutions
I find the roots of liberty and individualism to be borne from an incredible accident, from the failure of institutions of the West. This runs radically contrary to the narrative portrayed by many conservatives and the alt-right.
Equality of Opportunity?
Many conservatives and capitalists are fond of saying they don’t believe in equality of results but rather equality of opportunity. I believe this is a horrible strategy, and I believe it is bad philosophy; both politically and personally.
I Will “Appropriate” Your Culture!
You have an entire planet, and hundreds of thousands of years (at least) of ideas and clothing and art to choose from. Pick the good. Reject the bad. Make yourself the best you can be.
Shatter the Flow of Your Unfulfilled Life
It is impossible to know what you are capable of when the most important aspects of your life have been derived from people who came long before you or happen to hold greater influence.
Spanking Kids is a Result of Your Pain, Not Their Behavior.
For an adult who wasn’t taught to identify their emotions and own them as their own, spanking or swatting is, unfortunately, the easiest way to respond to a child who has triggered us. We are literally being exactly like a child when we hit. We are in our child minds because we were not taught a better way.