Take the risk of thinking for yourself. Much more happiness, truth, beauty and wisdom will come to you that way.” – Christopher Hitchens People get confused by conflicting prescriptions for success because they go about the process of analyzing advice all wrong. Advice is an invitation to explore. Nothing more. When you uncritically act on…
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How to Be Mindful All the Time
I often get asked about how to remember to be mindful more of the time — how can we remember to not only be present more, but to be compassionate, to drop into our bodies when we’re feeling difficult emotions, to have a beginner’s mind, to relax into the chaos of the moment?
Control and Exploit a Population
In which of the following two scenarios is it more likely for a violent gang to successfully subjugate, control and exploit a population on an ongoing basis?
Don’t Disown Your Past Selves
You have to remember that there will be plenty more Past Yous before you die. You can’t decide that you dislike or trust them all or you’ll lose all. You must remain confident in your ability to generate Future Yous that will win.
The Three Most Powerful Motivations
We all have times when we’re not sticking to our plans, not feeling psyched about what we’re supposed to be doing, and when we know we just need to get some motivation to get moving. The usual motivational tips aren’t always very helpful. But there are three motivations that I’ve found to be truly powerful.
Gun Safety Essential to Gun Rights
People who hate or fear guns won’t change their minds just because you are a safe and responsible gun owner. Those who are undecided about guns can be pushed off the fence onto the anti-gun side by the publicity surrounding tragedies. Don’t be the one who gives them a push.
The Stories That Stop Us From Being Present & Taking Action
We can’t stop the mind from coming up with the stories, as it is a narrative machine. However, that doesn’t mean we have to cling to the stories and keep them spinning around in our heads.
“Be Realistic” = Be a Jerk
If someone truly believes it is “Utopian” to expect human interactions to be voluntary, how would you like being one of their family members, or a neighbor?
A Guide to Letting Go of Shame & Fear
We allow fear to cause us to shrink from taking the action we want, or to make those actions less enjoyable. We allow shame to make us feel bad about ourselves and our lives, degrading our happiness and relationships. What would it be like if you were free of shame? How would you act if you were free of fear?
Taking Statists Seriously
I know I shouldn’t be mean to statists. I shouldn’t ridicule them or point out that they are no better than molesters. Even though it’s true. That’s not how you get people to listen and (possibly) change. This knowledge requires a change in me. And that change is hard and unpleasant and unnatural.