Writes Jaci Dunsford on this photo: There was a deep anxiety present in my parents as they brought me up. Sadly, because this becomes unconscious, I fear it was still there in me when I parented my children. It takes some overcoming – first by acknowledging it, then by owning it and seeing it for…
Tag: children
Smaller, Weaker
Writes Free Your Kids: The vast majority of humans do not hit those who may hit them back. Most men, even when terribly angry and enraged, will not hit another man because, in part, they fear being struck back. Same thing goes for women hitting other women (or men). Getting into physical altercations is not…
The Self-Ownership of Children
Writes Free Your Kids: Self-ownership is indispensable to freedom. We teach our kids that they own themselves and that they alone dictate what happens to them. Any force, aggression, or coercion against them is unacceptable. They own themselves; this is non-negotiable. But how to teach this to a toddler or an infant? Words are relatively…
Are you Damaging Your Child by Demanding Obedience?
Written by mudpiemama for AuthenticParenting.info. In our current culture, parents are praised when their children are obedient – it’s a mark of good parenting. The quieter and the more obedient the child, the better. In truth, parents are doing a disservice to their children and to society when they demand that their children do exactly…
Let’s Get Excited About Learning Again
Send him mail. “Insight for the Young and Unrestrained” is an original weekly column appearing every Thursday at Everything-Voluntary.com, by Gregory V. Diehl. Gregory is a writer, musician, educator, and coach for young people at EnabledYouth.com. Archived columns can be found here. IYU-only RSS feed available here. Do you remember when the prospect of trying…
3 Steps to Stay Calm When Your Child Isn’t
Written by Laura Markahm for Aha! Parenting. When our child acts out, lashes out, or is simply in distress, it’s natural for us to panic. We’re plunged into “fight, flight or freeze” because it feels like an emergency. And if our child’s distress is directed at us, then she looks like the enemy. But it’s…
Lamenting a Noble Cause
Send him mail. “One Improved Unit” is an original bi-weekly column appearing every other Monday at Everything-Voluntary.com, by the founder and editor Skyler J. Collins. Archived columns can be found here. OIU-only RSS feed available here. When “The Hobbit” came out in theaters, I decided to read the book instead of seeing the film adaptation.…
To Better Take Care of One Another
Writes Free Your Kids: Just something I’ve been thinking about… Perhaps we’re doing it all wrong. Maybe the idea that one man and one woman get hitched, set-up their own distinct home, and raise their children (basically alone) is the cause of many of our current societal problems. Taking care of children is difficult. Even…
That Hope is You
Writes Free Your Kids: For the children who’ve been screamed at, belittled, mocked, and shamed; for the children who live in angry homes, enduring hostile conditions; for the children who suffer emotional, verbal, and physical abuse; for those suffering neglect and maltreatment… For the children who have been raised in violence; for the children cowering…
Help Me Please!
Written by Darci Walker for Core Parenting. Why don’t we ask for help? Raise your hand if you are good at asking for help when you need it. Through our virtual connection, I envision a room full of crickets chirping as the vast majority of us sit on our hands and look around to catch…