Written by Laura Markham for Aha! Parenting. “Dr Laura….I know I should stop yelling, but I can’t. And I can’t imagine getting my kids to listen if I don’t yell at them…Can you move in with me for a week?!” – Cheralynn Like Cheralynn, most parents think they “should” stop yelling, but they don’t believe…
Category: Peaceful Parenting
An Easy Way To Shift Your Mood – Permanently!
Written by Laura Markham for Aha! Parenting. Life can be hard. And being a parent is one of the hardest things we do. No wonder we’re in a bad mood sometimes. Getting into a better mood takes effort. We can choose to see things differently, to take better care of ourselves, to tackle the problems…
3 Steps to Stay Calm When Your Child Isn’t
Written by Laura Markahm for Aha! Parenting. When our child acts out, lashes out, or is simply in distress, it’s natural for us to panic. We’re plunged into “fight, flight or freeze” because it feels like an emergency. And if our child’s distress is directed at us, then she looks like the enemy. But it’s…
Help Me Please!
Written by Darci Walker for Core Parenting. Why don’t we ask for help? Raise your hand if you are good at asking for help when you need it. Through our virtual connection, I envision a room full of crickets chirping as the vast majority of us sit on our hands and look around to catch…
How to Teach Children to Manage Their Own Behavior
Written by Kelly Bartlett for Parenting From Scratch. As with any “big picture concept” in parenting, the follow-up question is always how? I love this idea, but how does it work? I agree with this, but how am I supposed to put it into practice? I’m on board with this philosophy; can you give some…
I’m Not Raising Corporate America
Written by Mandy for the Natural Parents Network. I’ve often heard parents rationalizing punishments and rewards by citing the real world. When the kids grow up, they’ll be in the real world. In the real world, they’ll have to get a job and then, they had better be prepared. Punishments and rewards are everywhere, in…
The Best Way to Solve Your Child’s Problems
Written by Laura Markham for Aha! Parenting. Ever notice how kids don’t really want to hear your solutions to their problems? Teenagers, particularly, often react with downright hostility when we give them our good advice. That’s because they need to see themselves as capable. Every time we tell our child how to handle something, we’re…
Can You “Enforce” Your Limits Without Force?
Written by Laura Markham for Aha! Parenting. This is a terrific question: How can we “enforce” our limits? The short answer is, we can’t force anyone to do anything. All we can do is help our child WANT to meet our expectations and help him develop the emotional regulation so he’s able to do so.…
Let Go of Behavior Management; Teach it Instead
Written by Kelly Bartlett for Parenting From Scratch. I thought I was being helpful. My child made a mistake, and I thought I was helping by delving into the ramifications behind the mistake. Why it occurred, why it shouldn’t have occurred, what kind of behavior I expect next time. What I didn’t realize was that…
3 Guiding Principles for Parents
Written by Laura Markham for Aha! Parenting. The truth is, what you say is not nearly as important as your attitude. Your child feels your warmth and love even when you don’t say a word. But what about those times when you’re not feeling all that much love? Those hot moments when you’re trying hard…