Guest post by Laura Markham. “I don’t understand why you say not to punish transgressions. I get the concept of the bigger the transgression, the greater the child’s need is, but what if they really cross a line? Yesterday my 3-yr-old threw a book because he got mad. It hit my husband in the eye…
Category: Peaceful Parenting
10 Reasons Not to Hit Your Child
Guest post by Drs. Sears. 1. Hitting Models Hitting There is a classic story about the mother who believed in spanking as a necessary part of discipline until one day she observed her three- year-old daughter hitting her one-year-old son. When confronted, her daughter said, “I’m just playing mommy.” This mother never spanked another child.Children…
What Kids Really Want Parents to Know
Guest post by Kelly Bartlett. Over the years, I’ve been able to decipher a few important lessons from my kids. Sometimes I’m good at figuring out what they are really trying to say with their behavior, other times, it takes me months or years of frustration before I figure out something they’re communicating. Here are…
The Grayness of Children’s Rights
Guest post by Wendy McElroy. Children’s rights confuse me. But, then, children’s rights and the issues that surround them, such as parental responsibility, have confounded a great many otherwise clear minded theorists. Some libertarians reach definitive conclusions that directly contradict each other. For example, in an article entitled “Taking Children Seriously & the Future of…
10 Steps to Unconditional Love
Guest post by Laura Markham. We all know that children require unconditional love to thrive. But how many of us feel capable of giving it? We can’t, quite simply, give something we don’t have inside. Loving your child starts with loving yourself. So if you didn’t have a perfect childhood, if you’re more cranky than…
Connect to Correct
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Does Peaceful Parenting Mean Letting Kids Do Whatever They Want?
Guest post by Laura Markham. It might seem like just letting your kid do whatever she wants would make you more peaceful. No struggle, right? But that lasts for about three minutes. What makes a peaceful parent is regulating your own emotions so you can stay lovingly connected, to help your child process hers. That’s…
It’s Never Okay
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About Transference
Guest post by Alice Miller. At the beginning of our lives we were, as very small children, totally dependent on our parents. And we believed, we HAD TO believe, that we were loved by them. Even when we were abused we couldn’t realize this. Then, after 4 years, we grew up and couldn’t avoid suffering…
Violence is Not Love
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